About
What You Can Expect
My name is Mark Nightingale.
My unique way of working with men has been hard earned. I have been married, divorced, have had children and lived the highs and lows of raising a family, whilst trying to succeed as an actor. I was fortunate to have achieved a lot whilst acting, but eventually I crashed because of the perceived pressure I was under. After 27 years of chasing the dream to be a famous actor, I then experienced a breakdown. This was needed; I couldn’t stop myself and so therefore, I had to be stopped. I’m deeply grateful that God had a different plan to the one I was pursuing. Fortunately, I heard the call and chose to work on myself, leaving acting behind.
I needed help because I had not faced the trauma of my childhood; I realised that wanting to be a “famous actor” was my way of trying to get validation, love and respect. I tried therapy, did the Mankind project and then got involved with abandofbrothers. I worked my way up to becoming a Rites of Passage leader, the Head of Mentoring, and a Psychodrama facilitator. I now work for Sussexpathways mentoring and coaching men in the criminal justice system.
Alongside this, I spent four years working as a relationship councillor and built up my private practice, which has been running for nearly seven years.
My approach is to support men to recognise their worth and to stop compromising their manhood. Many of us have received bad guidance when it comes to being a man. Most of the men I see are angry, depressed, anxious, emasculated and in need of help in their marriages and relationships.
I have made pretty much every mistake possible when it comes to marriages and relationships but I’m very lucky that I have a gift when it comes to learning from the errors I’ve made. I believe it takes great humility to admit when we are wrong and need help.
If you are finding life hard and need some guidance, make contact and I’ll see if I can be useful to you. I have worked with hundreds of men over the years and many report that they have changed their lives because of working with me. It is a privilege and an honour to be entrusted with other people’s struggles.
Mission
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Supporting men overcome anger, guilt and shame.
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Promote masculinity.
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For men to practice grief and to forgive.
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Bring potency to the lives of men.
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Encourage men to take the lead.
Vision
To bring my mission into fruition, I work with men one-to-one to help them make sense of their lives, to bring clarity and develop strategies that will break the spell of victimhood, self-hatred, depression, confusion and impotence. I believe the world needs strong, confident men that lead, and don't apologise for being men. So, my vision is a world where men and women love, respect and admire each other's differences, so that they can live in harmony with one another and bring the best out of each other.