Coaching
The Road Home
If you're reading this, I make the assumption that you're seeking help. Are you unhappy in your marriage or relationship? Has someone close to you died and you don't know how to grieve? Are you on your knees and can't get back up? Do you feel depressed, anxious or lost?
If you've reached the point where you've accepted you can't do it alone, then I'd say you're making progress. Admitting you need help is the first step towards improving your situation. Next, is to find someone you trust to share your pain with.
My work focuses on exploring the myths and stories you've made up about yourself and others and then expressing the grief so that new solutions and strategies can be found to bring you back home.
My Story
My unique way of working with men has been hard earned. I have been married, divorced, have had children and lived the highs and lows of raising a family, whilst trying to succeed as an actor. I was fortunate to have achieved a lot whilst acting, but eventually I crashed because of the perceived pressure I was under. After 27 years of chasing the dream to be a famous actor, I then experienced a breakdown. This was needed; I couldn’t stop myself and so therefore, I had to be stopped. I’m deeply grateful that God had a different plan to the one I was pursuing. Fortunately, I heard the call and chose to work on myself, leaving acting behind. I needed help because I had not faced the trauma of my childhood; I realised that wanting to be a “famous actor” was my way of trying to get validation, love and respect. I tried therapy, did the Mankind project and then got involved with abandofbrothers. I worked my way up to becoming a Rites of Passage leader, the head of mentoring, and a Psychodrama facilitator. I now work for Sussexpathways mentoring men in the criminal justice system. Alongside this, I spent four years working as a relationship councillor and built up my private practice, which has been running for nearly seven years. My approach is to support men to recognise their worth and to stop compromising their manhood. Many of us have received bad guidance when it comes to being a man. Most of the men I see are angry, depressed, anxious, emasculated and in need of help in their marriages and relationships. I have made pretty much every mistake possible when it comes to marriages and relationships but I’m very lucky that I have a gift when it comes to learning from the errors I’ve made. I believe it takes great humility to admit when we are wrong and need help. If you are finding life hard and need some guidance, make contact and I’ll see if I can be useful to you. I have worked with hundreds of men over the years and many report that they have changed their lives because of working with me. It is a privilege and an honour to be trusted with other people’s struggles.