Frequently Asked Questions
Who is this work for?
This work is for any man who wants help and coaching. Examples of things that men have come to me with are: going through a difficult breakup, issues with anger, wanting to be more confident, needing to grieve a death, going through a divorce, having trouble getting access to children, wanting to improve the relationship with the mother of his children and other related issues such as social anxiety, depression and low self esteem. If there's something you would like help with, please get in touch and we can discuss whether I can be useful to you.
Why do you do this?
I do this work because I believe that men need a particular kind of help and support. Often, we feel the pressure to perform and don't want to admit we need help. I do this so that men can get the help they need. I've been working with men for two decades and I am well versed in what is needed.
Why do men come to you?
Men gravitate towards me because they are looking for someone who will not bullshit or sugar coat the truth. I provide a very masculine kind of help and many men come looking for that.
What will I gain from this?
If you work with me, you'll get to work through your issue in an honest and authentic way. I help men to be accountable for their part in the situation and at the same time, help them to disentangle from what is not theirs. You will have clear strategies in how to move forward; I also coach people in how to handle difficult situations and conversations.
What is the particular help and support that men need?
The world of therapy is often dominated by the need to express feelings and emotions. In my opinion, this is a more feminine way of approaching our inner world. I believe that men and women generally express feelings and emotions in different ways. Men tend to be more action based and so need support and help to untangle their emotional realm so that they can start to take action. By taking action, men often feel better. I can’t speak for women, but this is generally true for men. I encourage men to make changes in their lives, giving them practical strategies and solutions that will help them move forward.
FAQs
Do you work with the bereaved?
Yes. A lot of men in my experience have been socialised to believe that grief is all about crying and letting their emotions out. Grief, in my understanding, is something that you do; it's not something that happens to you. Grief may include sorrow, a deep sense of loss, bewilderment, emptiness, and anger, but it can also include celebration, joy, beautiful memories, and much more. I invite men to share the full breadth of their grief, without the end game of trying to get through it, over it, and past it. My approach is to help men understand that grief and grieving is their ongoing way of continuing to love somebody that is no longer here. It's the way we hold our dear ones close. So, if someone close to you has died, let's work together to remember them well.
How much is a session with you?
A one hour session costs £70.